Posted by admin August 31, 2007 This week Joanne and I jumped in the car at a moment’s notice and headed to Las Vegas to meet up with our birth-Mom and perspective 10 month old daughter. Interesting doesn’t begin to sum up this trip. Through conversation I realized that I was headed into the same experience we previously had. Nervous isn’t exactly the right word to use. Our perspective daughter is beautiful, tiny, and has a ton of curly hair. She’s was just gorgeous. Joanne and I talked with the birth-Mom at length. You know all the details you get when you’re adopting. Family history, circumstance, and life. Of course, you share your own life on what the daily routine is in your house. How you want more children, and why you’ll be great for this woman’s child. What Joanne and I NEVER realized is that we were taking on a second and soon to be third without realizing what we want for our family. The more we sat there the more I began to realize that more children is not right for us right now. I’m still in the stages of wanting to buy everything for Zadey.
To have every available moment be focused on Zadey. It’s a bad time to have more children. We’ve got a pending transfer with work. Another out of state move and life circumstances that isn’t exactly screaming to adopt two children. After our visit, Joanne and I went back to my brother’s house to think it all through. To decide what’s best, and to push forward from there. The decision that we made is one I never thought we’d make. . . We’ve chosen not to adopt right now. There’s so much going on that it’s just not the right time. When I was looking through the local activities guide for Las Vegas, realizing we’ll soon be living there again I saw that there are dance classes for 2 year olds. The classes are $200 to $300 a month depending on how many classes you choose to be in. This is money I can say that I’d like to spend for Zadey. But having another couple of babies right now would mean I probably wouldn’t. And if I did. . . how much would I enjoy watching Zadey dance while taking care of 2 babies during class? I wouldn’t and taking Zadey to those classes would not be enjoyable for either one of us.
Zadey is my sidekick. I love taking her with me where ever I go, even when I don’t “have” to. I want her with me all the time. I want to give her the world and I want her to have her time with Joanne and I undivided. Perhaps when life isn’t so crazy we’ll decide again that we should do another adoption. But in the mean time, I’m not ready to give up this one-on-one time that I realize now more than ever is so very precious to me. In the end, if Zadey is all we ever have image the spoiling she’ll have. There are many couples in Joanne and I’s community that want children and never have them. At this point, we’re just going to thank God that we’re one of those couples who have a child and should more come, we’ll discuss that possibility then. The truth of the matter is that this birth-Mom is not the end all, be all of Joanne and I expanding our family. The bottom line is that we have to do what’s best for Zadey and us. What I know how is these adoptions aren’t wants best for our family. This post was written by this blog’s original owner, Katy Castro who you can find blogging at I’m Blogging That!Mommy News, Mommy Talk, Zadey If you enjoyed this post, please consider to leave a comment or subscribe to the feed and get future articles delivered to your feed reader.